On seeing a few of my internet/actual friends had joined a facebook group for Feminazis from hell, for all the women out there who aren't typical women (as it were). I know a few amazing women who consider themselves feminist. In no way do I think that their choices are any better than mine, nor vice versa. But this is my take on it...
I'm not a huge feminist, I sew, I bake, I have a partner, I'm a student, I have a six year old.
Very much the "typical" female role in the household. On the other hand, I'm very much anti "girl" Not that being a girl is a bad thing, I'm just not that person. I don't live in an immaculate showhome and I never will, not with a 6 year old who has two giant guinea pigs, 2 cats - one long and one shorthair, plus a labrador.
The problem I face with being my gender is the child factor. The fact is I don't want children, and this may sound horrific but I was never the "having kids" type, Yet I'm so anti abortion I have my daughter. I don't feel the need to procreate, so i asked to be sterilised, Something which is such a huge decision in anyones life.
I thought long and hard about it, deciding the pro's and cons of it, I realised I don't want to be stuck attached to drugs to control my body to ensure I might not have a family. The fact of the matter is no contraception is 100% affective and the decision to not do it any more really made me happy.
It would mean that I can't have children at all, the very thought of which fills alot of women with fear. So I went to the doctors, made the appointment, got a referral where I was ridiculed for being 27 and not wanting to kids, how dare I make such a choice. The consultant is so sure that I will want a family that he refuses to steralise me until I'm 30, even saying he would bet me that I would change my mind.
I don't feel this was a very mature or professional thing to do, but me being the stubborn girl I am, took his bet. I absolute abhor losing anything, plus the more insistant that he is that I'll change my mind the more insistant I am that I won't.
My doctor says I should write him a letter, as apparently I was happy with this choice, to wait until I'm 30, but I just can't get the courage to do it yet, It's two years away, minus x months, I know in my heart that I don't want a family but it's still such a huge commitment.
I just thought I would share that with you guys, so thoughts would be nice :)